1. You hate being single.

There is a difference between genuinely wanting to enjoy a relationship and feeling as though you’re secretly doomed if you’re not coupled up.

The problem with really wanting a relationship is that it gives off a needy vibe that guys perceive as “it doesn’t matter if she really likes ME, she just wants someone.”

This needy energy puts him in the driver’s seat and kills the opportunity to win you over with the chase.

If you’re already in a relationship, not being comfortable with your own company will cause you to settle for situations that are wrong for you because being alone is scarier than anything else.

That brings me to the next point…

2. You think a man will bring you happiness.

Relationships are not the cure-all for your happiness problem.

While romantic love is one of the most beautiful, transformative experiences there is — expecting a man to make you happy is simply unrealistic.

Being happy with your life just the way it is already is a huge secret to attracting a good man. People are magnetically drawn to happy people.

Because people get this backwards so often, they don’t understand why they fail to attract love. You have to be happy first, then the love and relationship can come into your life.

3. You’re too eager to have children or merge a family.

Finding a family man who wants to have children or parent yours (if you’re a single mother) is an amazing thing. And, it is definitely NOT WRONG to want children. You are absolutely entitled to what you want your life to look like.

The problem is that when women look for a man to have a family with, sometimes they come off like that’s way more important than falling in love and having a good relationship.

Marriage and children are very high stakes activities for men — so when they meet a woman who’s so focused on the family and less on what he’s like, it is a complete turnoff.

I understand why this happens.

If you’re in your 30’s, want children, and are single, the clock is ticking for healthy biological children. If you’re a single mother, you cherish your children and want to meet someone who would be good with them.

Either way, the pressure to meet a family friendly man can be big.

The problem happens when women pass this pressure unto men — even when they don’t mean to.

Sometimes women try to “cut to the chase” and ask a man if he wants a family right away. Sometimes women try to figure out whether a man might be open to marriage without really getting to know a man first.

While not wanting to waste time makes sense on paper, in reality, it makes the man in front of you bolt.

Also, wanting the same things is important. However, these are not topics to discuss on the first few dates when you’re getting to know someone before you’ve both even figured out if there’s a mutual attraction.

4. You’re TOO independent.

I was raised to be capable. It took me awhile to learn that “capable” doesn’t mean “don’t accept anyone’s ideas” or “you always know better” or “treat that man like he’s hired help while he hangs those shelves.”

Independence is awesome, but keep in mind that bossy is not.

As a recovering control freak, I can vouch that expecting everything to be just-so will kill a man’s attraction to you faster than you can say “put that over there.”

5. You make a man the center of your world.

If you give up your dreams, hobbies, and passions to spend more time with a man, eventually you will feel the pain of losing yourself.

He will notice that your emotional world revolves around him — and this is too much responsibility for anyone.

Sooner or later, resentment will bloom and damage your relationship.

You don’t have to sell out for love, quite the opposite. Hold strong to what you really like. If there is one big, fat, major regret I have about my failed relationships, it’s the times I compromised on what I love for a love.

Never make a man your hobby, your dream or your goal.

It will hurt you in ways you can’t even imagine right now. There is nothing more attractive than the way someone’s eyes light up when they’re talking about their individual passions. Never compromise that for anyone.

6. You hold undercover negative beliefs about men.

Sneaky negativity about men is a huge reason why men are turned off by women who they would otherwise find really attractive.

If you’ve gotten your heart broken a few times and/or had a shaky relationship with your father, it can be difficult to trust and understand men.

This leads to the excruciating, catch-22 position of wanting to attract a good man but not really believing that it’s possible.

If you think that all men want is sex or that they can’t stay faithful, you will manifest exactly those situations!

Liking men is essential to attracting a good man and keeping him long-term. Men can sense when you don’t trust them, and it kills all attraction to you.

How do you like men when you have been hurt?

Start noticing all of the times when men do things you appreciate. Keep in mind that guys are just individuals, like members of any other group. Some are bad news and some are wonderful — like women.

Do your best to stop generalizing. It will do wonders for the quality of men you attract into your life.

7. You chase him down.

I recently wrote about how to get men to chase YOU, but it bears repeating that if you want a masculine energy man who will pursue you and cherish your feelings, it has to be his idea.

I know how hard it is to sit back and wait for… well… anything… but patience is essential if you want the kind of love that lasts.

From now on, you don’t need closure, to know “why he wasn’t interested” or anything else. Gracefully let dead relationships die and the cream to float to the surface.

If he wants you, you’ll know because he’ll go out of his way to treat you well. If not, drop him like a hot potato.

8. You’re ready to ditch your relationship at the drop of a hat.

Commitment-phobia is real — even when you think that you really want a good relationship.

Basically, if you’ve ever been hurt or found yourself in a dead-end relationship, the urge to bolt when times get tough can be overwhelming.

When I was a kid, my wonderful mother reminded me often that she was always prepared in the case that she had to support both of us — even though my Dad was very much present and still happily married to her to this day.

As an adult, I understand that her intention was to produce a daughter who could handle herself in the world (thanks, Mom!) but as a child, it terrified me.

For no good reason, I spent my childhood thinking that my Dad was going to bolt and that men weren’t to be trusted.

From his actions, my Dad was very committed to our family. But her fear crept into my psyche just the same.

Whatever your personal circumstances happen to be, they shape what you do in the present with the men in your life. I don’t blame you if you have a touch of runaway bride in you like I do.

However, it’s worth the emotional work to get to a place where you can stay and be vulnerable even when things get tough.

To be happy and feel secure in a relationship, people have to feel secure.

If you have your running shoes on all the time, it makes your partner feel like you could abandon them at any moment. This is not healthy for either of you. It will destabilize the bond you’re trying to build.

In the end, relationships can really hurt, but you definitely won’t save yourself from losing a man by preparing to lose him first. * Source: enterghana. com 

The village court was completely stunned last week after hearing about Mbereko’s affair with her son, which began three years ago. 

She claims she spent a lot of money sending Farai to school, and that she now feels she has a right to his money, and not another woman.

“Look, I struggled alone to send my son to school and no one helped me. Now you see that my son is working and you accuse me of doing something wrong. Let me enjoy the products of my sweat,” she told the village court council.

Farai was more than willing to marry his mother, and even told his mother’s family he was going to pay off part of the lobola his father still owed them when he passed away. 

“I know my father died before he finished paying the bride price and I am prepared to pay it off,” he said.

The man adds that “it is better to publicize what is happening because people should know that I am the one who made my mother pregnant. Otherwise they will accuse her of promiscuity.”

Local headman Nathan Muputirwa was not that agreeable with this arrangement. “We cannot allow this to happen in our village, mashura chaiwo aya, (This is a bad omen indeed). 

In the past they would have to be killed but today we cannot do it because we are afraid of the police,” he said, warning the couple to immediately break off their marriage or leave his village, which they did.  Source: NAIJ. com

This is what happens when your makeup artist has been paid to sabotage your wedding and it sure left the groom depressed but does he has a choice. But this is an opportunity for Nigeria makeup artists to go invest in Liberia (West Africa). Source: yen. com .gh

She later released photos showing her pregnant belly to coincide with the launch of her new website which lets her fans insight into her world and upcoming productions.

Source & (c) by livefmghana. com - Photos of Kafui Danku below.

The unfortunate incident occured on Saturday 31st December after the accused who was reportedly opposed to a song being played at the engagement ceremony inisisted that the song be stopped.

His action sparked a fight amomg the gathering some of whom stood up to the suspect’s unruly behaviour but in the melee the suspect thrust a knife through the chest of a man by name Asare, sending him to the ground instantly.

The victim was rushed to the New Edubiase Hospital but was pronounced dead on arrival.

When news of the death of the victim got to guest at the event, some angry young men suddenly started destroying properties in the house worth several thousands of cedis.

The Adansi Fomena District Police Commander, Supt. Yaw Asubonteng confirmed the incident and the arrest of the suspect, adding that the corpse has been deposited at the New Edubiase Government Hospital morgue.  Source: kasapafmonline. com - 

With her experience and relations with colleague musicians, we do not have any reason to doubt her recent utterance that most Gospel musicians in Ghana are facing terrible challenges in their marriages although she admits almost every marriage has its own problems.

In a recent interview with Abeiku Santana on Okay FM, the musician who seems to be enjoying her current marriage revealed a lot of her colleagues were suffering in their marital homes but are unable to voice it out due to where they find themselves in society.

“A lot of Gospel musicians have problems in their marriages …the challenge is that most of us are unable to voice our challenges simply because of where God has placed us.”

Although Obaapa Christy admits some marriages are very beautiful, she believes it’s extra difficult to marry a pastor.

“There’s no marriage without challenges but it’s tough to marry a pastor”, she said.

She also asked Gospel musicians to be careful who they settle with as marriage is not a race.

This came up when Abeiku Santana asked if it was necessary Gospel musicians married pastors who are perceived to understand musicians and their trade better.

Born Christina Twene, Obaapa Christy has nine albums to her credit and looks up to veteran musicians such as Daughters of Glorious Jesus, Tagoe Sisters, Georgia Adjei, Stella Aba Seal, Amy Newman and Nana Yaw Asare for inspiration and motivation. Source: nydjlive. com

She therefore decided to abandon the wedding that morning by making a run for her life.

However, a few people believed to be involved in the marriage caught up to her and tried to convince her to go ahead with the wedding. Source: yen.com. gh

She has advised all and sundry to for once, stop looking/using all the bad marriages as an excuse to live a reckless single life and start taking tips from the ones getting it together in the most difficult times and staying together.

She also advised that marriage will be beautiful if you want it to, and that you just have to put in work.

A civilian, who led the police to the wedding venue at West Anaji told Starr News’ Western regional correspondent, Emmanuel Ohene Gyan the couple had just completed the exchange of vows and were about wearing their rings when two plain-clothed police officers from Bogoso stormed the place and whisked the bridegroom away after using one of the invitation cards to confirm his identity.

The joy and excitement that had filled the venue of the ceremony was cut short as many of the awe-stricken guests started weeping and wailing.

The bride, Rebecca Buah, was reported to have collapsed after the arrest.

The suspect, Ackah, 30, has since been taken to Prestea for further investigation.

Compiled by Huffington Post, here are 8 ways to find a good husband

1. Look for a good man: An open and sympathetic man who doesn’t hold grudges is a good man.

2. Look for a good father: He can be everything you need but if he isn’t a good father, then you will have a big problem on your hands in future.

3. Look for a strong man: He’s tough in rough times and you can always lean on him for support.

4. Look for a man with a sense of humor: He’ll always know how to snap you out of a bad mood or make jokes out of funny situations.

5. Look for a passionate man: A man who sees the brighter side of life and has numerous interests, music, food, you name them.

6. Look for a man who loves music: His collections would make you fall in love with him over and over again.
Source: ghanavibes. com