You are the Best Man...
Congratulations — you've just been given a position of honour in your friend’s life. He’s not just getting married — he’s crossing a major life threshold, and he’s asked you to stand beside him as his best man. In Ghanaian culture, that role isn't just about wearing a nice suit or walking smartly at the reception — it’s a big deal.
Your friend is trusting you to be his support, his hype man, and yes — the one to help him leave bachelorhood behind in style.
Of course, there are some “fun” parts — planning that final boys' night out (Ghana-style stag party, or maybe just a good hangout with drinks and jollof). But after that, it's real business: you’re there to make sure everything moves smoothly, from dressing up the groom, to helping with last-minute logistics, and yes — delivering a speech.
But don’t panic. Let’s break it down, step by step.
In Ghana, people love speeches — but they also love them short, sweet, and spicy. You’re expected to represent the past, the present, and the hopeful future of the groom with a touch of humour, some cultural pride, and plenty of good energy.
Reflect on your friendship with the groom (without embarrassing him too much — Auntie and Uncle are watching!).
Highlight his good qualities (even if he was a small 'vhim guy’ back in the day).
Share a light, funny story — one that shows who he really is.
Offer heartfelt encouragement for the couple’s future — something meaningful but not too deep for a wedding crowd.
Whether the wedding is happening in a church in Accra, under a canopy in Kumasi, or in your hometown somewhere in the North, here are some things to remember:
Speak with confidence – project your voice, but don’t shout like you're on a trotro.
Smile – you’re not giving a eulogy.
Keep it short and memorable – this isn’t a lecture; people are waiting for food and music.
Keep it respectful – remember you’re speaking in front of elders, pastors, in-laws, and sometimes chiefs.
Don’t use the microphone to settle old scores or overshare. Save those “boys-boys” jokes for later.
Even if you're naturally funny or a smooth talker, write some notes or create a mini outline. The moment you see everyone’s eyes on you — your brain may decide to take a nap. It’s not weakness; it’s human.
Having a short guide with your key points, stories, and closing words will help you stay focused. And if nerves hit you mid-speech, pause, breathe, and flow like you’re having a conversation with the room.
A Ghanaian wedding is a celebration, so your tone should match. Don’t go too serious, don’t go too silly. Think of yourself as the bridge between tradition and laughter, friendship and formality. People want to feel like you’re happy for your friend, and they want to enjoy listening to you.
One of the best things you can do is share a personal story — something heartwarming, funny, or memorable that shows who the groom is behind the scenes. Maybe it’s a story from SHS, uni, work, or childhood. That’s what makes the speech unique and powerful.
When done right, it makes the crowd laugh, connects them to the groom, and lets them feel like they were part of that moment.
Yes, you’re allowed to throw a little friendly “shade” — Ghanaian weddings often have a bit of this during speeches. But keep it clean and respectful. No embarrassing stories that would upset the bride, the pastor, or the groom's mother. Light teasing is great — humiliation is not.
Dress well. Help the groom dress even better.
Keep the drinks in check until your duties are done.
Keep your eyes on the groom — if he needs water, his handkerchief, or a moment of calm, you are his anchor.
Be the guy that everyone says, “He really supported the groom.”
Your friend chose you because you know him, you trust him, and he trusts you. Represent him well — and when you speak, let your words be a reflection of brotherhood, maturity, and joy.
Good luck, Boss Best Man. You're going to nail it!
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